Monday, May 4, 2009

Sad News

I know, it's been almost 2 months since we have posted. We are slackers. But, we have had a lot going on. The biggest thing was that we have been doing an IVF cycle. We started taking shots on March 22nd. On April 17th we had 8 eggs retrieved and 5 days later on April 22nd we had 3 embryos transferred back. We found out today that the process did not work. I know there are people out there that have gone through the same experience. It is impossible to describe the overwhelming sense of sadness I am feeling right now. But, this process was not only about the end result.

Ben and I went through a lot of prayer, fasting and faith before making the decision to move forward with In Vitro. We received an answer and a confirmation that this was the path we needed to take and the timing was right, and that whatever the outcome we were moving in the right direction and the results would be what was best for us and our family and our future.

I want to thank all of the people our there that were hoping and praying with us for a different outcome than this. I think part of what makes this so hard for me is the fact that I know it's hard for other people too, people that I love and care about. I wanted to be sharing good news today, news that would not only make my day, but that of so many people that were hoping with us. I wasn't able to do that, and that makes me sad. But, someday it will be our turn to share the good news. I cannot wait!


Jessica & Justin said...

You two have got to be the some of the most faithful people I've ever met. I've been so impressed with you through this whole process and I'm so proud to call you family. We love you guys so much! Thank you for being an amazing example.

The Cowleys said...

I am SO sorry to hear that. I will keep thinking & praying for you guys.

Angela said...

Oh Man!

You know, it is crazy how things seem so right, but don't work out exactly the way we want them to. I remember receiving my answer on our first attempt at adoption. Everything fell into place and things were looking so good with Ashley (birth mother). The day we were suppose to take the baby home, the birth father suddenly threw a fit and Ashley didn't have a choice but to keep the baby instead of the father taking her.
Anyway, I now see the reasons why we were told to adopt this baby. We have been a big support for Ashley (even now) we know the Lord knew what Ashley needed. Ashley needed us more than us needing that baby.
It's just interesting how it all works out for the good.
Well, I am thinking of you and feel your pain. I am sorry you have had to deal with the emotions that come with is a really hard time.
Let me know if I can do anything for you. You can call me anytime...just get my number from Brooke so I don't have to post it publically.

Angie Marchbanks said...

I am sad to hear that the invitro process did not work this time. Not only is it emotional but also very physically draining on your body. We have been in the process of adoption for awhile now, and have kindof backed off because we feel we need to do invitro again. My body has had a while to get back to normal since we did it the last time, and I have been seeing a hormone doctor who has been really helpful. I guess we will see if the third time is a charm. I don't know if your doctor told you about an invitro cycle with chlomid, but it is easier on the body and less expensive. Let me know if you want to learn more about it. Anyways, just thinking of you at this hard time, and know that things will work out the way they need too.

Amber said...

Hang in there girly! I love you!

.the palsky's. said...

Oh carmen, i'm so sorry that the procedure didn't work. i barely know you, but without a doubt, i'm sure you will be a wonderful mother to beautiful children. i wish i had your strength and faith. you're an inspiration to me.